Unprofessional and Unkind
My 17-year-old daughter sat down for her haircut and Marga looked at her hair with a mixture of dislike and exasperation. She said I assume we are cutting it all of and seemed annoyed when my daughter said no.
Marga told her that there was ‘a limit to how good its ever going to look when its soo long’ but despite this bleak prognosis my daughter insisted she still just wanted a few inches off the ends and more layers.
Cue Forde, the neighbouring hairdresser, feeling the need to make his feelings clear. Spoiler - he hates long hair too. The way that he made this clear was a combination of gurning face, side-eye. sound effects like ugh and sort of small vomity noises. When we didn’t react he took it up a notch and started chatting at top volume with his client about how much he hates long hair and how people- the ones with really long hair, (nudge nudge) look like mormon freaks- and “I don’t care what people think I just say it how it is.” Cue a few more side eyes and looks of disgust at my daughter’s head.
I’m not making this up. We probably should have just walked at this point but my girl was going to a party that night and we had crossed London for this appointment. I should have said something to him but I’d had a long week and just didn’t feel like having to deal with getting into it with him. I just wanted to enjoy a little mother/daughter outing.
So we stayed. I sat nearby and both hairdressers mocked me for “keeping such a close eye/ eyes like a hawk. Are you scared we’re going to cut it all off… blah blah etc”
But I’m glad I did. Under my hawkesque supervision Marga cut my daughter’s hair how she’d asked and we liked it. Forde, not that we asked, didn’t like it at all. Pointedly shaking his head side to side to register his disapproval at the final mirror reveal at the end.
This happened at few months ago but I decided I would warn others about our experience. Happily my daughter is confident in her self worth and has a sense of humour. But she was quite shocked by the experience. For someone else it could be much worse. You can feel quite vulnerable sitting in a chair in a hair salon. And you don’t expect unkindness.
To be fair we had been to the salon once before -asked for exactly the same thing- and a different woman had done a great job. She loved my daughter’s hair and posted the photo on Instagram. But this was a very different ordeal and I just don’t want to support a business where this culture of bullying is clearly accepted.








